{As soon as our babies were born, most of us realized how little about child development and parenting we really knew. A summary of much of the important research on child development in recent years.}
Soon after my first son was born, I realized just how little about child development and parenting I really knew. Sure, I had a Doctorate in Human Development and Family Sciences. I knew how children develop and the important role that parents play. But all this book knowledge didn’t prepare my heart for when he cried for long stretches. It didn’t tell me what to do when he wouldn’t sleep.
Child development research can tell us a lot, but it can’t tell you how to parent your unique child. Then what’s the point of reading blogs like this one? Child development research is all about understanding the typical or “average” track of children’s development. This is helpful, as it turns out, in understanding how your child will progress (in a general sense) through the different phases of development. As a parent, it’s useful to know approximately when your child might walk, talk, understand emotions, and all the little stages of development they will experience.
Personally, I think this knowledge of child development becomes most useful and powerful when combined with your innate parental intuition. Some knowledge of child development along with your parenting intuition makes many parenting decisions easier to face. For example, I have a good understanding of the research on children’s temperament. When my own son was born and he was sensitive, “jumpy” and not very easy to soothe, I combined this knowledge with my own observation and intuition about my son to understand his needs and personality much better. This helped my parenting so much!
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This bringing together of child development and parenting (along with your intuition) is what this blog is all about.
What is the Parent’s Role in Child Development?
Before I became a parent, I used to think that a parent’s role in child development was huge. After all, in all those studies of children’s development, the influence of the parent is almost always included–is the parent’s discipline harsh or gentle, how does the parent speak to or interact with the child? It’s true that a parent’s role in their child’s development is important and significant.
But what if the child has an equally crucial role in their own development? This is the line of research that blew me away! How children interact with the world, how their unique personality elicits different reactions from those around them also plays a huge role in their development. In the research world, this is what we call “child effects.” To take it one step further, we are now able to understand the role of genetics in how kids develop. The subtle interplay between a child’s genetic predispositions, their interaction with their environment and the role of parents are complex and fascinating.
To sum it up, parents do play an important role in their children’s development, but we don’t always know what particular influence that is. The decisions we make each day about issues like feeding our child organic baby food or conventional, choosing one school over another school, enrolling them in sports or music–all these decisions do matter but perhaps not in the ways we think. Maybe it’s not the school’s curriculum that will affect our child’s development so much as the peers in the school. Maybe it’s not the type of baby food that will influence our child’s development but rather his sensory issues related to food. We can’t know all these factors when we make decisions. All we can do is make the best decision based on all the information we have at the time.
I love this video and how the researcher explains these complex child development and parenting interactions:
What are the 5 Main Areas of Child Development?
In terms of studying child development, the primary skills are generally broken down into the 5 categories below. Included below each category are articles from this blog related to each one.
Cognitive Development:
the development of the brain and how kids learn, think, and process information.
Classic Baby Books that Boost Brain Development
Why Play is Still the Best Way to Spark Your Child’s Development
The Key to Making Sense of Your Child’s Crankiness: Understanding Toddler Growth Spurts
The Myth of “the Mozart Effect”: When Good Research and Bad Journalism Combine
Toddler Toys That Will Boost Children’s Development {and they’ll love for years!}
The Most Underrated Brain-Boosting Toy in your Kids’ Toy Box
Social-Emotional Development:
the development of children’s skills in recognizing, coping with and controlling their emotions and those of other people. Skills in interacting with others.
In a Divisive World, Raising an Emotional Intelligent Kid is a Powerful Act
Fun, Meaningful Kids’ Gifts that Promote Kindness
Why the Moral Development of Toddlers Matters for All of Us
Toddlers Have Big Emotions. Insight from Research on How to Respond
Children’s Emotional Intelligence: How to Develop those Crucial “Soft Skills”
15 Acts of Kindness for Kids: Ideas for Developing Emotional Intelligence {plus a FREE printable}
Toys for Emotional Development: Gifts that Keep Giving
The Secret to Raising Happy Kids: Don’t Focus on Happiness
3 Top Tips for Raising a Kind Child: Realistic Ideas for Parents
Speech and Language Development:
the development of language, using language and speaking to others.
The Hidden Power of Picture Books for Older Kids
The Fascinating Reason Why You Should Care About Your Baby’s Babbling
Classic Baby Books that Boost Brain Development
Electronic versus Traditional Toys: What They Mean for Infant Development
Say it Again: Repetition Aides Language Development
Self-Regulation in Toddlers: Why Language Matters More for Boys
Toddlers Really Do Have Their Own Language
Gross Motor Development:
the development of large muscle groups that control walking, sitting and lifting the body.
Toddler Toys That Will Boost Children’s Development {and they’ll love for years!}
Surprisingly Helpful Calming Activities for Super-active Kids
Fine Motor Development:
the development of smaller muscle groups that control hand movements, and finger movements.
Toddler Toys That Will Boost Children’s Development {and they’ll love for years!}
Why Art and Crafts for Boys Still Matter for Child Development
Child Development and Parenting in Action
Classic Theories and Studies
Child Psychology Classics: The Mirror Test
Cultural Variations in the Classic “Mirror Test”
Attachment Theory
The Thoughtful Parent’s Guide to Attachment Theory
The Parent’s Guide to Understanding the 4 Attachment Styles
How Breaking the Attachment Parenting “Rules” Taught Me One of the Best Lessons
Temperament
More Evidence that “Difficult” Babies are Most Influenced by Parents
Difficult Temperament ≠ A Child Destined for Problems: Good Parenting is Key
What Temperamentally Sensitive Babies Can Teach Us
Why Your Child’s Temperament is the Key to a Better Relationship
The Lifelong Reach of a Baby’s Temperament
Infant Development
6 Fascinating Newborn Reflexes that May Surprise You
How to Survive Colic: Reflections from Science
Traditional vs. Electronic Toys: What They Mean for Infant Development
Say it Again: Repetition Aides Language Development
The Sleep Training Debate and Poor Journalism = A Bad Combination
Like any study of human nature, the study of child development and parenting is a fascinating complex mingling of genetics, interpersonal interactions, and unseen factors. Hang on for a crazy but fulfilling parenting journey!