• Skip to main content
  • Skip to header right navigation
  • Skip to site footer
The Thoughtful Parent

The Thoughtful Parent

A blog that makes child development approachable.

  • Social-Emotional
    • 7 Ways to Teach Your Child About Kindness
    • 4 Powerful Social-Emotional Lessons Kids are Learning During the Pandemic
  • Temperament
    • Seeing the Unique Gift of Your Child’s Temperament
    • Insights for Parents from the Science of Child Temperament
  • Toddler Development
    • Research-Backed Real-Life Strategies to Discipline Kids without Yelling
    • Research-Backed Ways to Thrive Through the Toddler Years
  • Child Development
    • A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the 4 Attachment Styles
    • Child Psychology Classics: The Mirror Test
  • Parent Coaching

What Does an Effective Preschool Look Like? A Guide for Curious Parents

January 15, 2024 by Amy Webb, Ph.D.
what to look for in a preschool checklist

Sneak peek: Parents often ask what to look for in a preschool. This post can be your guide for what questions to ask on a preschool tour. Learn why play in preschool is brain-building.

The Scene:
You walk into a pre-K classroom and you see several groups of 4-year-olds playing in different areas in the room. One group of students is playing at a pretend grocery store. They are deeply immersed in “buying” and “selling” toy fruits and vegetables. A teacher stands nearby and asks them open-ended questions like, “what does the cashier do?” or “how much does a banana cost?” 

Another group of students is building with blocks on the floor. They are working together to build a tall tower. Another teacher is asking probing questions like, “how many blocks do you have stacked so far?” and “what will happen if we stack another block?”

preschooler playing with blocks

As a naive bystander, you wonder if the kids here are learning anything. I mean, aren’t they just playing? What about all the preschool learning activities they are supposed to be doing? What are the teachers doing just playing with them? You start to wonder if preschool is really worth the money you are paying for it.

As a parent, you may have had an encounter similar to this one. Maybe you were touring schools wondering what to look for in a preschool or what questions to ask on a preschool visit. Perhaps you saw this as you watched your child at preschool prior to pick-up time.

What Makes a High-Quality Preschool Program?

As adults, we often have preconceived notions about what “schooling” should look like and include. Doesn’t preschool mean a teacher in front of a group of kids instructing them in the ways of ABC’s and 123’s? What is often missed is the subtlety of how children learn and the beauty of children’s development. Research and real-life experience tell us that all people learn best when they are actively engaged in preschool learning activities. This is especially the case for young children.

And what engaged kids more than anything else? Play! Although kids can learn through worksheets and flashcards, the lessons that benefit them the most and that they will keep in their little brains for years to come are those learned through hands-on engagement, which usually happens through play.

preschool children playing

This post contains affiliate links. Purchasing through these links helps support this blog at no added cost to you.

 
 In her new book, The Most Important Year: Pre-Kindergarten and the Future of Our Children, author Suzanne Bouffard brings to light these issues of learning, play, and child development. As I mentioned on my Facebook Live last week, this book is must-read information if you have a child approaching pre-K age.
 
 
https://thoughtfulparent.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/23014303_1849000978763348_1105243751258783744_n.mp4

Questions to Ask on a Preschool Visit

It takes real skill to pack lots of research into a book and it does not sound like a textbook. However, Suzanne Bouffard does it! She uses a wonderful storytelling style and incorporates the top research in the field in such a way that it’s enjoyable to read. You feel like you are just following along with a few families as they visit preschools. After reading this, you will know what to look for in a preschool. Crucial topics to consider include:

  • the orientation of the program toward play or academics
  • teachers’ demeanor and attitude toward the students
  • teacher turnover rates
  • the physical organization of the classroom (e.g., space for students to move around, etc.)

preschool teacher with students

The Role of Play-Based Learning

For me, this was one of the big highlights of the book — a detailed explanation (with examples!) of play-based learning and WHY it is the preferred method for teaching young children. As a parent, this is what you want to know: how my kid is learning through play and what it looks like in real life. This book delivers on this point. She shows wonderful real-life examples of preschool learning activities that are engaging and playful. Just reading these examples will help you understand what to look for in a preschool and give you ideas for what questions to ask on a preschool visit for your child.

How Education Policy Affects the Schools

I think many parents struggle with understanding how national education policy and funding affect their local schools. This book explains in real-life examples how national policies towards early education and K-12 education impact preschools in our country. If you want insight into how schools in lower SES neighborhoods struggle or why staffing in preschools is so difficult, this opens the door to all those issues.

questions to ask preschool tour

The Value of Play-Based Preschool Learning Activities (at School or Home)

All these points are wonderful, but perhaps the best lesson I learned from the book was one that may not be so easy to see. Her discussion of how preschoolers learn and examples of play-based learning gave me more confidence as a parent that I can help my child learn through play at home. Many of us send our kids to preschool (myself included) but the other 5 or 6 hours of the day I sometimes struggle to know how to engage him in play and not allow him to zone out in front of a screen.
 
This book offers insight into the use of open-ended questions, open-ended toys and an understanding of how preschoolers learn to help parents incorporate guided play at home. After reading this, I realized all the little things I do with my 4-year-old at home or while running errands really do help him learn important lessons. Singing songs, asking him questions, teaching him about how things work in the world, are not just wasted words…this is the best way for him to learn.

Hopefully, you will find this aspect of the book helpful as well and gain confidence in your ability to parent your child in such a way that incorporates a bit of playful preschool learning activities.

Are you searching for a preschool or pre-K program for your child soon? Are you planning a preschool visit but unsure what to ask?

Preschool checklist for parents 

Download this Preschool Checklist for Parents. All your preschool visit questions ready to go!

preschool tour checklist


Download the Preschool Guide (only $2)

 

 

Share this post with your parent friends!

Related posts and resources:

The Hidden Effects of Early Childhood Programs

Why Preschoolers Don’t Follow Instructions (and ways to help)

Preschool is Going Online: Why This is a Huge Mistake

the most important year

The Most Important Year

 

cribsheet

Cribsheet

 

Perfect for Pinning:

preschool checklist
 
 
 
 
 
 
Category: Play-Based LearningTag: education, guided play, learning, play-based learning, preschool

Reader Interactions

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Sidebar

Amy Webb
As a mom of two young boys, I've seen first-hand how research-based child development information, combined with intuition, can guide you through your parenting journey. Although I have a Ph.D.in Human Development and Family Sciences, many of my real parenting discoveries have come through my experience. I believe parenting with confidence comes from knowledge; parenting with grace comes from insight. Join me on this parenting journey of learning and discovery

Moms–Preview My New Book!

parenting blog

Get FREE child development texts

Search

Online Course for Moms

stay at home mom course

As seen on

Amazon affiliate links appear on this blog. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases (at no added cost to you).

  • Home
  • Blog
  • About Me
  • Contact
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest

Copyright © 2025 · The Thoughtful Parent · All Rights Reserved · Powered by BizBudding

Privacy Manager