The Science-Based Reason Why Experience Gifts are Great for Kids

{plus 25+ awesome experience gift ideas}

{Sneak peek: Looking for some “outside the box” gift ideas that kids will definitely remember? How about some experience gifts for kids that they will love.}

I was listening to a story on the radio yesterday and the author profiled had written a book about consumption. He said if the whole world bought things at the rate at which Americans consume “stuff” (i.e., consumer goods), it would take five planet Earths to support us.

He also said that from since 1970 the American population has grown 60%, but American consumption of consumer goods (adjusted for inflation) has increased 400%.

Now, this is probably not the message you want to hear, just days after Black Friday as most of us are scrambling to buy gifts and more “stuff” for our friends and family members. This is not meant to be a lecture about consumption. But just a point of awareness.

The ironic part of about consumption, particularly in the West, is that despite our purchasing power we’re not necessarily any happier than people in any other part of the world.

When asked about consumption in other parts of the world, author J. B. MacKinnon says,

“What anthropologists have learned is that there are different ways that we can approach the project of having a good life. I think the way that we have approached it in the modern West is to give ourselves access to a lot of things and we’ve don’t that by creating an economy that revolves around that…and hunter-gatherer cultures have taken quite a different approach. They took the approach of meeting their needs by having few of them and choosing needs that can be pretty easily fulfilled off the landscape around them. And when they did that, what they gave themselves was a lot more leisure time than we take advantage of in our culture.”

Fewer Toys = More Play

The idea that “less is more” is perhaps most evident in the research about toys and children. There’s quite a bit of research now that shows that children who have fewer toys actually play with them more.

Not only do children play with toys more when they have fewer toys but they play in more creative ways.  Researchers believe this happens because young children don’t get as easily distracted when they only have access to a few toys.

So as we approach this holiday season, if you are like many parents who are trying to cut back on the number of toys that come into your house, what are you left with in terms of gift options? One option that has become more popular in recent years is the idea of experience gifts for kids. That is, a gift that isn’t a “thing” but rather, an experience. The possibilities for these are almost endless.

They can be things like trips to membership at a zoo or museum trips to an amusement park or a play place. (See the list at the end for more ideas.)

Related reading: Toys and Gifts for Emotional Development

Benefits of Experience Gifts

Research actually shows that there are a lot of benefits to these experience gifts. Some studies have shown that when people receive an experience gift rather than a tangible, material gift, they actually have a stronger emotional response. The researchers believe that this response helps strengthen the bond between the gift giver and the gift recipient. Furthermore, it also seems to promote a stronger sense of gratitude. One study showed that people who received an experience gift showed more gratitude than those receiving a material item. This is really interesting and thought-provoking when it comes to our kids.

If the whole point of giving a gift is to express our affection and love for them, as well as create an emotional connection between us, then it seems experience gifts are really the way to go. And with this added bonus of the fact that it promotes more gratitude, it seems like it’s a win-win for all involved.

Making the Switch to Experience Gifts

So if you’re on board with the idea of experience gifts, we have some I have some ideas for you here. But the other potential tricky aspect of this is getting kids on board with the idea of experience gifts. It is kind of a cultural norm for kids to make lists of toys and items that they want for Christmas. It might be hard to shift their perspective to more experience gifts. Don’t worry! It can be done.

Here are a few tips:

• Discuss in advance the idea of an experience gift and its value and benefit over a toy or an item.
• Encourage kids think about experiences that they have liked in the past that could be turned into gifts.
• Discuss the importance of memory making. I think this is a really key part of and benefit of experience gifts. I think it’s helpful to discuss this with kids–the fact that when we experience something together, we make a memory and that memory will last hopefully a lifetime. Whereas a toy gets played with for a few months or maybe a year and then it’s often given away or thrown out or forgotten about.

An experience, and especially the memory that goes along with it, is something that really you get to keep your whole life. I think making that distinction for kids could be really meaningful for them because they can recognize the difference and the value of that.

25+ Fun and Meaningful Experience Gifts for Kids

• Zoo membership
• Tickets to an amusement park
• Museum membership
• Tickets or passes to their favorite indoor play arena or trampoline park
• Arcade tokens
• Tickets to a botanical garden
• A cooking class
• Ski passes
• Boating trip
• Beach day or trip
• Movie tickets
• Gardening kit and a plot in the backyard for gardening
• Camping trip
• Tickets to a bowling alley
• Mini golf outing
• Tokens for a batting cage
• Ice skating 
• a coupon book full of their favorite experiences
• Train ride
• Art class (online or in-person)
• Tickets to a big sporting event (e.g., professional baseball or basketball)
• A YES Day (this is not for the faint of heart, parents 🙂
• A dance class
• Lessons of their choice (e.g., skiing, skateboarding, surf, etc.)
• Fishing trip
• Tour of a popular factory (e.g., candy factory, bakery, etc.)
• Friend or cousin trip

This year in particular, with its supply chain snafus and growing awareness of limited natural resources, is perhaps the perfect year to move more towards experience gifts for kids. Twenty years from now, kids may not remember that Lego set they got in 2021, but there’s a good chance they will remember a day full of fun experiences with you.